We face problems everyday, it's what makes us stronger, more flexible, what incarnates our problem solving skills. But from all these abilities and all those books written by the privileged, what I still have hard time understanding is how can we still fail in tuning the basic strings of life.
I'm calling it the happiness-unhappiness loop. Simply because I believe that we cannot be happy forever and unhappiness has to make it's entry in the story.
It's all relative, Einstein!
We call someone happy by a relative point of view. For example, if I say I'm happy these days, I'm talking relatively to a time when I wasn't happy. We compare between two events, one that has occurred and one that is occurring. So naturally it stands to reason that a loop or a cycle is necessary to work.
But, there is a missing link. Psychologically.
You see, if you know that the loop will eventually catch hold of you and you're looking especially at the not-so-happy part, you'll consciously or unconsciously prepare for it. When you already know that unhappiness is going to hit you, you're not much effected by it. It's just a moment in life in which you learn about nature and yourself.
Rather than trying to calm down on the fantasied existence of unhappiness, tell yourself how important it is to go through such a phase. Though it will create a hype in your mind, it's still better than creating it in middle ground. Here's a stanza of a poem by an unknown author.
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.
Unhappiness might try to tear you apart but in the end you will know something about yourself that you didn't know before.
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